I think it’s in my blood. The need to beat my PR. On anything.
Baking. Swimming. Running. The number of laundry loads I can complete before the end of the day- washed, dried, folded and put away. Don’t get too excited folks, that PR ain’t high. But the need is there.
And there is this funny thing about goals- you can set them, but if you don’t really care about that goal you are not going to work for it. You’ve got to feel so strongly about hitting the goal that nothing can stop you. Not a million “No’s”, not a cold, not a broken bone, not a schedule conflict…nothing will stop you.
But what if it takes you longer than you planned on to reach your goal?
Y’all, I used to struggle so hard with this. If I didn’t hit a goal, I would beat myself up. Negative thoughts and self-defeating language would flood my brain. Not only did that tear me down, it took my family down too. How could I preach kindness, mercy and selflessness to my boys when I wasn’t showing any of those things to myself, and in turn not showing those attributes to them? It affected my relationship with my husband too. I wasn’t worthy. I couldn’t live up to my own standards, so how could I live up to his?
When I was discussing this with my precious friend and mentor, she gave me this nugget of wisdom- celebrate each milestone.
Every step you take forward is a celebration! So you didn’t meet your goal, but you made progress! What did you learn along the way? Did you try harder than you did before? Did you make it farther than you thought you could? Then celebrate!
So I did…and it was life-changing.
Every little win was cause for a celebration. A pat on the back. A lovely thing to put in my jar. All you “Looking for Lovely” friends know what’s up. I was making progress. And with each celebration, with each moment of thanks for that win, the negativity slowly went away. I am naturally a glass-half-full kinda gal anyways, so living in this sad place was misery. Once I was able to find ways to find the joy and be thankful, I was able to find joy and thanksgiving in more and more. It’s the kind of cycle we need to be on. When that happens, it becomes habit and becomes how you see the world. Some days can be hard, but as a general rule it’s relatively easy to see the wins when you’ve had practice.
I want to encourage you to look for little wins along the way to your goal.
Have a weight loss goal? Every pound lost is a reason to celebrate!
Have a business goal? Every sale is a chance to give yourself a high five!
Have another super awesome goal? Find a win to celebrate!
For me, I have a goal to run a half marathon in November. Every time I run, I try to walk a little less. Or maybe run a little faster. Or go a little further. But every time I do one of those, I celebrate because I did better than before. I may not hit my goal of running the whole 13.1 miles, but I sure am going to try. And if I have to walk some it’s ok- I have never done this before and even being in a half-marathon is awesome. I will have made progress.
So how do YOU measure progress?